How To Get Through A Heartbreak?|7 Tips Before You Start Again

The longer your courtship, the deeper the heartbreak.

It’s even harder to start afresh when a married couple with children who have built a life together for many years divorce. More people are hurt too!

I can’t say I know a true heartbreak. That’s because the two ‘heartbreaks’ I went through were self-inflicted, though hurtful. The two girls I loved before I met my wife didn’t love me back and no relationships ever started.

So, what do you do when you go through heartbreak as a Christian single?

#1: Remember God

He saw the heartbreak coming, knows details about it you don’t know and nothing can stop His plans for you to be accomplished despite it.

Cast your pain unto Jesus because He cares for you. (1 Peter 5:7)

Many times, we make idols of the one we love. It’s out of love that God smashes that idol so we can go back to the first love. Nobody should ever be more important than Christ.

Then allow God to heal your wounds and make you whole again. “He heals the broken hearted and bandages their wounds.” (Psalm 147:3)

#2: Mourn Your Loss

It’s okay to cry and take some time off to process what has just happened. Go for a retreat somewhere and reflect and see whether there are lessons you can learn from that painful experience.

Please don’t jump into another relationship immediately. Any baggage you carry into the next relationship will affect it.

If you’re not sure about the difference between true love and infatuation, please read this article; Love Vs Infatuation|11 Characteristics Of True Love In A Relationship

#3: Forgive The Heartbreaker

Realize that if they hurt you, they didn’t know better. If they played you, they didn’t know better.

Forgive them and pray God helps them to become better people. Unless you forgive them genuinely, God won’t forgive you. (Matthew 6:14-15)

Also, if being around them stresses you, it’s okay to give them physical, phone and social media space. Sometimes you just have to cut them off and move on.

If you contributed to the breakup, forgive yourself, too. Now and then we make foolish decisions. It’s also proper to give an apology if you were in the wrong and ask the person to forgive you.

You won’t want to hinder your intimacy with God because of unresolved issues with someone else!

#4: Surround Yourself With Loved Ones

Don’t hide or be by yourself for long periods. Get on your feet and enjoy the companionship, cheer and comfort of loved ones in your family, friends or church.

#5: Focus On Your Life’s Purpose & Assignments

Never peg your life’s happiness and well-being on the decisions of another person but on God alone who will never leave you nor forsake you.

Read more about finding your purpose and assignment in this article; WHY AM I HERE?|Know The Purpose & Assignment of Your Life

#6: Thank God

We give thanks in all circumstances because it’s a command and because God causes all things to work together for our good. All things including hurtful heartbreaks. (Romans 8:28, 1 Thessalonians 5:18)

No matter how dark it may seem, He is in control and will cause this experience to work for your good if you keep loving Him. (Romans 8:28)

Sometimes God brings people into our lives to teach us lessons we’d have learned no other way, to be the salt that preserves until we’re ready for our right partners, to be a bridge that helps us cross certain valleys, to be the sandpaper that sharpens us, to discipline us so we can mature and to be a warning signpost of where we should never thread again.

#7: Keep Hope Alive

Someday, God willing, you’ll meet the person God is preparing for you. The one who let you go wasn’t yours and you can be sure God will give you the person you need, in His time and in His way.

Have faith in God and wait for Him to work on your behalf. (Isaiah 40:30-31, 64:4)

Before you enter another relationship, confirm whether you know these 10 things about yourself; Do This 1st Before You Start A Love Relationship | 10 Things You Must Know About Yourself

Thank you for reading this article. I welcome your comments and questions below – as iron sharpens iron, let’s sharpen each other.

 “Now that you know these things, God will bless you for doing them. Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it.” (John 13:17, James 4:17)

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