Does Love At First Sight Exist?

Love at first looks great in movies. It holds my breath too.

Two actors walking from opposite directions knock each other or bump into each other in the lift, the lady drops something on the floor and as they go down to pick it up, they look into each other’s eyes and fall in love!

Perhaps that’s what happened with Adam and Eve when they saw each other for the first time. He had seen no beautiful creature like her before! He broke into a song saying,

“At last!” the man exclaimed.

“This one is bone from my bone,

and flesh from my flesh!

She will be called ‘woman,’

because she was taken from ‘man.’”

(Genesis 2:23)

I was smitten the first time I saw two girls I had crushes on at different times in my life. Their beauty caught my eyes the first time I saw them and I wanted to marry them as soon as possible though I knew nothing about them, not even their name! Crazy eeh! I didn’t know then the difference between love and infatuation.

It’s normal to see someone for the first time and like them. Even now that I’m married, I sometimes meet beautiful ladies with likeable personalities, but it doesn’t mean I’m in love with them.

I think it’s an illusion to love someone you know nothing about. There has to be key information that informs the decision to love before committing to love them. We shall look into key things you must know about someone before you start courtship soon.

In the garden of Eden, Adam knew God and interacted with nobody else. Waking up and seeing Eve there, he must have realized that God had brought her there. Therefore, he declared his wonder and love for her.

With my wife, it wasn’t love at first sight but deep admiration at first meeting. I remember the first day I met Damalie in a small group discussion at our church and liked her love for the Lord. But no thought of love or marriage crossed my mind. Among the lady friends in my life during that time, I felt most safe and free around Damalie and enjoyed talking to her whenever we met. I admired her and respected her as a person. I’ll share with you how she became my wife in another article!

Let me also mention that in communities where marriages are arranged, a man and woman who have never met before go on to build stable families. That sounds weird, I know.

Even in the Bible, for instance, Isaac and Rebekah wedded on the very day they met for the first time. (Genesis 24) But note that in such cultures, couples trust their parents to do due diligence before someone is chosen for them. Usually, the families know each other or someone close to them knows them.

The cement that holds a relationship together is not the feeling of love or physical beauty but the commitment to love each other for the rest of your lives.

You may meet your future wife or husband and like them at first sight, and that’s fine. Just make sure you know who they are on the inside before you marry them.

People’s love stories can’t always be alike. It’s what we make of the relationship after we have met that counts the most.

If you have any questions about love relationships that you’d like us to answer, please ask them in the comments below.

Thank you for reading this article. I welcome your comments and questions – as iron sharpens iron, let’s sharpen each other.

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